Are we here so we can get that document written, or that email answered? Is our highest calling to ensure that all of the stakeholders are kept in the loop? Should we place customer's or shareholder's needs before all else? These are things that can be useful and important, certainly. When I need to do these things at work, I do my best. I enjoy what I do most of the time, but these activities are a means to an end.
Building a great software solution is fun, but seeing my oldest son growing up to be strong, accomplished, and a fine young man makes me tear up with pride.
Getting to "Inbox Zero" makes me feel like I have done a good job of getting everyone what they need, but taking my toddler's hand and going for a walk when reaches out to me and says, "Come on, Dada," feels so much better.
It makes me happy when I meet with other teams at work and I can help us all come to an agreement on some project or issue, but when my boys play together I feel true joy.
It is necessary to work. Work pays us so we can provide food and shelter for our families. If we are fortunate, we might get to do things that help others, or are interesting, or fun - but my greatest roles are husband, and father. I do care about making bosses and co-workers and customers happy, but my wife's happiness and opinion comes first.
Does this make me a terrible employee? No, quite the opposite. I want to do a good job so I can take care of the people that matter most to me. I feel like I am a good boss when I remember that my employees have families, too. When I protect my team's time, they usually appreciate it and want to stay with me. I think that many people in business forget what it is all about.